If you’ve been applying our happiness hacks, you are living a happier life by being more authentic. You’re retraining your brain by wearing out the positive paths. Now, you’re ready for some fun with our third happiness hack.
The Third Key: Give out whatever it is you desire in your life.
Need money? Give some. Feeling a need for encouragement? Encourage others. Want to be around more positive energy? Try throwing more of it out yourself.
You see, whether you call it karma, reaping what you sow, or the boomerang effect, the principles are the same. The fact is, whatever you give out will come back you. It’s like gravity; It’s that way whether you believe in it or not. You can’t escape it. Instead, harness its power for your good and I am going to tell you how.
Step 1: Harnessing your power.
The first step to harnessing the power of what I will call the boomerang effect, is to become more aware of it. Look back at your life experiences from a different perspective. I want you to look for examples of you getting “back what you gave out”, both positively and negatively.
For example, there was a time when I was quite judgmental towards others. So, guess what I got back, many times over? Yep, lots of harsh and unfair judgments. How did I get happier? I quit doing it and begin putting out love in response to those I felt an urge to judge. What do I get back now from others? You’ve got it - love and acceptance.
Another instance, years ago, we downsized from a huge Victorian to an RV. Now faced with the fact we had to get ride of every thing we owned. I chose to give the bulk of every thing even the groceries in the fridge to a domestic violence survivor. This was a time when I was still praying hard for my own way to get free from abuse. a while afterwards I left my toxic situation and found the world to be in a giving mood. I have felt time and time again the world has taken care of me since leaving.
Can you find examples from your own life where you got back whatever it was you gave out? Start making a conscious effort to note these instances in your life. Better yet, journal them, have a record to harness and cross reference. After a while you will start to notice a pattern of give and receive.
Step 2 : Harnessing your awareness to make change.
Developing awareness of how you feel as well as the feelings of others will put you in a place to harness change. You will start to catch yourself when negative vibes take over and adjust. Sttop them and replace then with the good vibes you want in your own life instead. Fact is, you can’t go through life cursing and blaming others and thinking the blessings will come. To become blessed, you need to bless others.
Have you ever known someone who has the world’s worst luck yet every vibe they put out is negative? I have; I used to be one. Developing an awareness of my own negativity was the next step, I use constant positive affirmation to combat negative vibes. It’s rare I throw a bad vibe and I don’t have to work at it. Happens quite naturally. Am I happy? Yes sirree, I’m as happy as a pig in the mud. You can be too!
What does this look like in day-to-day life?
Think of a impatient driver that rides your ass for miles then at the first opportunity, flies around you and then cuts you off. People get shot for less in instances of road rage. But, that’s your chance right there. You can choose to put out bad Mojo, or you can choose to send out the good stuff. What you get back depends on it.
You have a choice. Let it get to you, curse him, lay in the horn, flip him off… whatever. Or you can choose instead not to given in to anger and chill. It may feel fake at first, but the more you do it, the more you natural it feels that way. The more good you give out, the more good you get back. Yep, the happier you are.
What does this all have to do with being happy? It is very simple. Whatever it is you need in your life, you need to give that to others before you have it yourself. It’s a faith thing, but it has never failed me.
Is life always this simple?
How do you explain good people who suffer miseries?
What of the evildoers who seem to thrive?
No, life is not that simple, and I haven’t a clue about such things, only opinions. But we don’t have to have all the answers! Nor do we need to agree on matters of theology to be able to be more aware of this principle and then harnessing it.
In a nutshell this principle means you’re capable of controlling, to some extent, the quality of your future. If you want a happy little life, focus on helping others find theirs. You can’t out give the universe.
Step 3: Harnessing positivity for that good old ripple effect.
The focus thus far has been on the benefit to us, but nothing we do is ever in isolation. Our actions always affect others, whether we realize it or not.
We all leave a wake behind us. I don’t know about you, but I’d rather leave a pleasant one than a stinky one, and no doubt that’s what others prefer. Remember, my wake used to stink. Think about it… it is a true win-win situation, no matter how you slice it. Choosing to put out positive energies over negative ones, tips the balance to the light side of the force. That way we all benefit.
Now, who in their right mind, wouldn’t want that?
Most of us have simply never thought about it. The hope is that my words have inspired enough change in you to spark action. Soon you’ll be a habitual, positive-vibe tossing fool. May you grasp it and give the good stuff away in ever-increasing amounts.
Are you with me? Tell me about it and leave a comment! Here’s to tipping the scale on the good end! Enjoy!
Find part one of the happiness hack series here -> Happiness Hack: Just Be You, All You, All The Time
And part two here! -> Happiness Hack: It’s All in Your Head
Or check out this great post, it comes with freebie! -> How To Quickly Shift Destructive Thinking